If you could write a letter to an ex today, what would it say?

Ayoola Adetayo

Would you be thankful for lessons learnt the hard way, or would you let your anger burn into those words?
Certain relationships are doomed to fail from the very beginning because of the baggage one or both partners drag along from previous relationships.
This is a particularly relatable statement if you have ever been cut out of a relationship without knowing what you did wrong, where things went wrong - or if you even did anything wrong at all.
The limbo one goes into and the uncertainty that beclouds one's mind in the following days/months after a relationship that ended with so many things left unsaid, so many emotions left unexpressed...
These and the intense regret you feel at not getting closure could be so potent as to almost make one crazy, confused, angry and bitter in varying degrees at various times.
Closure is a psychological term that describes your desire for a firm answer to a question and an dislike toward ambiguity, and uncertainty.
So there's that guy that left you without a word, and the babe that just cut off communication with you without any explanation even though you thought you were headed somewhere great with her.
A broken relationship is a painful experience, and many times, one either does not get the chance to express the hurt, or bottles in the pain and does not take the time to say all that needs to be said.
As time passes, you realize that there are some things you should have said but can’t say anymore because it would look like you haven’t moved on.
But the thing is; the hurt, disappointment, pain and even shame suffered in a past romance has a way of dousing, switching off or numbing some parts of yourself that you once freely gave.
To love deeply, trust absolutely or get involved wholly with a subsequent partner[s] becomes difficult - especially if you got no closure from that past relationship.
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It hurts and damages you to keep that hurt, anger, hate, and pain for so long. It’s an extremely liberating process which will free you from any resentment or baggage you’ve been carrying around.
So, if you could write a note to that ex you once opened your heart to and shared your moments with, what would you say?
Will you be thankful for the lessons you learnt even though it was the hard way? Would you let out all the anger and call him or her the names you always wanted to? What would you say, and how would you say it?
Pulse Relationships is running an emotional relief campaign which allows you write these letters and free your mind of all toxicity.
Pen the words, write out the emotional struggles and the triumphs you've had, if any, since that breakup that hurt you.
Send the letter in this format - Dear [Insert Ex's Name Here] - followed by your words to him/her to relationships@pulse.ng.
There's no need to include your name as the letter will be published here and on our social media pages anonymously.
Also follow us on Instagram on
PulseNigeriaRelationships » to follow the campaign, send us a DM, and see the liberating messages and other amazing content.
Writing an open letter to your ex will help you get everything off your chest without necessarily engaging with the person in question.
So, free yourself from the ghosts of partners past, send that mail today.